Finding the right balance between your inner self and outer self can make a lot of difference in your life. Learn how you can keep them both in check in our quick guide.
Every day, you face varying levels of challenges, emotional turmoil, stress, and other disruptions. Unfortunately, these seemingly harmless events can pile up and drastically impact various aspects of your life, including the harmonious balance between your inner self and outer self. To an extent, these can also affect your overall self-awareness and shake up your core values and belief systems.
So, how do you keep your inner (emotional and spiritual) and outer (physical and social) self in check? How are they different in the first place? Learn more about these two and how they relate to each other, and how you can find a better way to navigate through the challenges in recovering their equilibrium.
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It’s common to have two versions of yourself – one that the world sees (outer self) such as your image and the hidden side that fuels your emotion, inner thoughts, desires, purposes, and spirituality (inner self). The problem arises when these two mismatches, causing you to act differently from what you think or feel.
Unfortunately, this conflict can result in burnout and emotional stress. You struggle to get through the day, feel empty inside, and lack the motivation to do your tasks. On top of the psychological and emotional storm, your body can also suffer. It can leave you vulnerable to illnesses or trigger the onset of worsening symptoms of an existing disease.
But how do you exactly know if your inner and outer self struggle to co-exist? Are there tell-tale signs you should look out for?
The best way to assess self-conflict is by taking a step back and pinpointing the gaps between how you act around people and your inner emotions and core values. Here are some of the critical factors you should look into:
An average adult makes about 35,000 decisions every day. Have you ever wondered what motivates or drives you to choose one option over the other? For example, when you choose between moving to a new city for a job or staying in your hometown and giving up on the opportunity, what would influence your decision?
If you think about it, most of the decisions you make in your life boil down to considering your core values. In a huge way, your core values and belief systems guide you in living your life. They allow you to make intelligent and well-informed decisions.
Can you count the times you have failed to live up to your belief systems and core values? Sometimes, people are too busy pleasing others that they forget what truly matters to them. For example, do you say that you strongly value friendships but prefer to be alone all the time? Do you appreciate honesty but end up telling a lie to land your dream job?
List down all the possible activities or events where you had to make certain compromises. From there, you can evaluate what steps you need to take to address the problem and do better.
It’s no secret that resolving conflicts between your inner and outer self doesn’t come easy. It also doesn’t happen overnight. However, the sooner you realize that you have a problem and trace what causes the clashing, the better you can cope. Focus on realigning your goals with your belief systems. Pay close attention to what your inner thoughts say and consider them whenever you make a decision.
If the problem persists, or if you continue to feel bothered inside, it may be time to embrace a destructive personal transformation. It could include switching to a new career, altering your belief systems, or even severing a relationship.
We recommend taking a step back. More importantly, you should think about your answers to the questions below before you make your decision:
It’s best to work on the most severe concerns and move on to the minor problems. This way, you get a better overview of what you need to work on yourself. It also allows you to plan how you can fill in the gaps and prevent another internal conflict.
Finding a way to balance your inner self and outer self is just the beginning of a powerful transformative journey. It does come with challenges, primarily if you have been used to projecting an entirely different persona from what you truly feel inside.
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