Balancing Your Inner Self and Outer Self

Finding the right balance between your inner self and outer self can make a lot of difference in your life. Learn how you can keep them both in check in our quick guide

Every day, you face varying levels of challenges, emotional turmoil, stress, and other disruptions. Unfortunately, these seemingly harmless events can pile up and drastically impact various aspects of your life, including the harmonious balance between your inner self and outer self. To an extent, these can also affect your overall self-awareness and shake up your core values and belief systems. 

So, how do you keep your inner (emotional and spiritual) and outer (physical and social) self in check? How are they different in the first place? Learn more about these two and how they relate to each other, and how you can find a better way to navigate through the challenges in recovering their equilibrium. 

Outer self vs. Inner Self

It’s common to have two versions of yourself – one that the world sees (outer self) such as your image and the hidden side that fuels your emotion, inner thoughts, desires, purposes, and spirituality (inner self). The problem arises when these two mismatches, causing you to act differently from what you think or feel.

Unfortunately, this conflict can result in burnout and emotional stress. You struggle to get through the day, feel empty inside, and lack the motivation to do your tasks. On top of the psychological and emotional storm, your body can also suffer. It can leave you vulnerable to illnesses or trigger the onset of worsening symptoms of an existing disease. 

But how do you exactly know if your inner and outer self struggle to co-exist? Are there tell-tale signs you should look out for?

How to Spot Inner and Outer Self Conflict

The best way to assess self-conflict is by taking a step back and pinpointing the gaps between how you act around people and your inner emotions and core values. Here are some of the critical factors you should look into:

Your Core Values

An average adult makes about 35,000 decisions every day. Have you ever wondered what motivates or drives you to choose one option over the other? For example, when you choose between moving to a new city for a job or staying in your hometown and giving up on the opportunity, what would influence your decision?

If you think about it, most of the decisions you make in your life boil down to considering your core values. In a huge way, your core values and belief systems guide you in living your life. They allow you to make intelligent and well-informed decisions.

The Opportunities Where You Fail to Apply Your Values

Can you count the times you have failed to live up to your belief systems and core values? Sometimes, people are too busy pleasing others that they forget what truly matters to them. For example, do you say that you strongly value friendships but prefer to be alone all the time? Do you appreciate honesty but end up telling a lie to land your dream job?

List down all the possible activities or events where you had to make certain compromises. From there, you can evaluate what steps you need to take to address the problem and do better. 

Bridging the gap between your outer and inner self

It’s no secret that resolving conflicts between your inner and outer self doesn’t come easy. It also doesn’t happen overnight. However, the sooner you realize that you have a problem and trace what causes the clashing, the better you can cope. Focus on realigning your goals with your belief systems. Pay close attention to what your inner thoughts say and consider them whenever you make a decision. 

If the problem persists, or if you continue to feel bothered inside, it may be time to embrace a destructive personal transformation. It could include switching to a new career, altering your belief systems, or even severing a relationship. 

We recommend taking a step back. More importantly, you should think about your answers to the questions below before you make your decision:

  • Are your current choices in life preventing you from living up to your values and beliefs?
  • Are you anywhere near your goals in life, and have you been taking the necessary steps to move forward? If not, how can you do better? 
  • What are the pros and cons of each option? 
  • What do you expect from your life-changing decision, and how do you plan to cope?

It’s best to work on the most severe concerns and move on to the minor problems. This way, you get a better overview of what you need to work on yourself. It also allows you to plan how you can fill in the gaps and prevent another internal conflict. 

Start your transformative journey with Enso-Nia today!

Finding a way to balance your inner self and outer self is just the beginning of a powerful transformative journey. It does come with challenges, primarily if you have been used to projecting an entirely different persona from what you truly feel inside.

Join our FREE masterclass at Enso-Nia today and learn more about the other aspects of self-transformation, including:

  • Seeing a new perspective to the law of manifestation or attraction
  • Making peace with your past experiences
  • Understanding what’s keeping you from unlocking your fullest potential
  • Discovering the four most critical emotional ingredients in manifesting your goals
  • Embracing the beauty of destructive personal transformation 
  • Learning about inner resource mining to build a robust foundation for your life

Message us today at Enso-Nia for more information about our free personal transformation class through our web form. You can also engage with Enso-Nia on YouTube, Facebook, and Instagram for your queries or concerns. 


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